Stomach churning, shoulders up and tight with quickly flying thoughts of deep discomfort, insecurities and just plain being uncomfortable.
Not everyone was born with the ability of being at ease in front of a camera. For many of us it is learned. Too often we are way too cautious of every movement and facial tweak. One of the major things to look for in a photographer, whether for you BIG day or for a family portrait, is how comfortable you feel with them.
Personalities clicking, as simple and strange as it seems, is a huge part of taking down that wall: Awkwardness. Another great thing is if they can help you with posing.
Before I take a couple or family out for their portraits, wedding, engagement or other wise, I like to have a bit of a feel for them as people. Are you more laid back, are you silly? Are you traditional? Are you modern and chic? In my head I lay out a palette of posing that might work for you.
As silly as it sounds sometimes it helps to be shown what feels natural. As soon as the cameras go up everything seems to change, "Wait you mean my shoulder shouldn't touch my earlobes? But I feel so much better that way!?"
Here are a few shots of the session I had a while back and it shows how I like to do things. I'm silly and not all are, so I get up and I literally position myself how I might want them and then the results of what the actual pose looked like.
Hope you enjoy!